Mary Ekah and Chiemelie Ezeobi
The recent directive mandating all
intending couples of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) to
submit themselves for mandatory genital tests has elicited mixed
reactions with many in support of the directive and others wondering if
the church was not going too far by invading people’s privacy.
In a memo, which has since gone viral,
the Assistant General Overseer of the RCCG (Admin & Personnel),
Pastor J.F. Odesola, said the church had observed the recurrence of
marital crises resulting from falsehood, especially in the case of
undeclared or un-confessed reproductive or genital status.
Dated May 10, 2018, the memo read:
“Calvary greetings in Jesus’ name. The Mission Authority has observed
the recurrence of cases of marital crises resulting from falsehood,
especially in the case of undeclared or un-confessed
reproductive/genital status.
“We have the directive of the General
Overseer to instruct the entire Mission’s outpost that forthwith,
pre-marital medical examination for intending couples should also
include a genital test.
“Furthermore, provinces are requested to
register with particular (trusted) government approved hospitals for
the various pre-marital examinations for intending couples.
“Remain blessed in this season of songs and victory in Jesus’ name, amen.”
While some Nigerians commended the initiative, others deemed it an invasion of privacy.
A lifestyle blogger, Diary of a Naija
Girl, who claimed to be in the know about the memo, said the church was
acting because of so many complaints.
She said: “RCCG has heard many complaints from women as to their husband’s false declaration of sexual prowess and ability.
“Because the church frowns at divorce, women have stayed in their marriages even when their husbands are impotent.
“Because of the ‘no sex before marriage’
rule, some women don’t have any inclination of this so they go ahead
and marry then get stuck or simply cheat secretly.
“For this reason, couples’ genitalia will be examined before marriage to be sure they are not basing the marriage on falsehood.”
One Dr. Jummie said: “Membership of a church means submitting to its ordinances and being accountable to them.
“Some members ensure extreme measures to
prevent pre-marital sex and their first opportunity to see the ‘real’
is on the wedding night.
“So many deception cases out there. There are indeed wolves who prey on the innocent!
“Therefore having a genital exam protects these members who are trying so hard to honour God with their bodies. I agree!”
Comedian, Wale Gates was of the opinion
that the church shouldn’t stop there, saying they should also look into
the issue of domestic violence.
He said: “RCCG should also carry out a psychiatric test for intending husbands to identify potential wife beaters.”
Nejeeb Bello said: “I am not totally
against this so called ‘genital testing’ or fertility testing ordered by
RCCG before weddings.
“We don’t know why there are suddenly so many stabbings among new couples.
“Remember, RCCG pastors do marriage counselling, and complaints may have been on these issues.
“Personally, I am more worried about
marrying someone with hidden mental health issues than a person who
can’t have kids. Nothing should be hidden though when going into
marriage.”
Iyke Iyinagoro said: “So, now they are
getting involved in members’ private and intimate affairs? Nigerians
should concentrate less on churches and work harder.”
Will Orem said: “Some people have chosen to remain sheep for life. This is ridiculous.”
Defending the decision on the mandatory
genital tests for couples, the spokesperson of RCCG, Pastor Olaitan
Olubiyi, said Tuesday that the memo in question came up as a result of
different issues and cases that had been brought to the attention of the
church by couples that are going through situations and challenges
occurring from the non-disclosure of the health status of some men
before marriage.
He informed THISDAY in a phone interview
that the church was only responding to a trend that it had observed and
felt it was necessary for couples, especially men, to go through
genital examinations before marriage.
“In the first instance, a memo is an
internal document, it is not meant for public consumption. So, it is
supposed to be seen purely as a communication within the family. But
that being the case, I know you might also argue that RCCG is a public
organisation.
“Now, whatever the church does is always
as a response to a need or reaction to certain issues. In recent times,
we have had a series of cases with newly wedded couples or even
existing couples that have been going through a lot of problems in their
marriages, so the memo came as a response and reaction to the problems
we have observed within these marriages.
“In RCCG, we believe that before the
marriage vow, the two people going into the marriage must have all the
information about each other and that is why they are always asked: ‘Do
any one of you have any reason why this marriage must not go ahead?’
“Any marriage contracted on the grounds
of deceit is already in danger. Let me just give you an instance, if a
man knows he is impotent, we are not saying they shouldn’t get married,
but is it not fair to let the lady you are marrying know that this is my
condition and for the two of you to agree to go ahead, believing that
God is going to bring healing?
“But where a man knows his condition
genitally but refuses to confide in the person he is marrying and they
get married and they then begin to have all manner of problems emanating
from just one particular issue that has to do with the genital status
that was not declared right from the beginning, that is an issue.
“The church feels this is not fair. Even
apart from the man, if two people are going into marriage, there are
always issues that need to be made known to each other. Look at the
royal wedding held a few days ago, for example, let’s just imagine for a
moment that the lady hid the fact that she was married before and got
divorced, and then she went into the marriage with Prince Harry, and
then the truth comes out later. What do you think would be the result?”
he asked.
Olubiyi, who insisted that the church
was not in any way infringing on anybody’s privacy or rights, added:
“What the church is saying is that there must be full disclosure of the
health status of both parties, so that the two of you would know from
the onset what you are getting into.”
Asked if some church members were
actually untruthful about their genital condition before marriage, he
said: “That is exactly what I am saying, that a lot of marital issues
come to the church and we discovered that hiding their genital status
has been a major cause.
“For instance, if a couple is waiting on
the Lord for children, in the African culture, a woman is presumed to
be the one having fertility issues. But we discovered that most times,
it is the man that has issues and more often it had been there before
marriage but he never disclosed it to his wife before marriage.
“That is why the church is saying that nothing should be hidden between couples before they go into marriage.
“In the church, we also conduct
pregnancy tests before marriage on the women, so if we put the woman
through those tests, it is also fair that the man is subjected to
certain tests before marriage.
“Ordinarily, the church should not be
getting into such things but we are now realising that this is becoming a
big problem because a lot of people are hiding facts and information
about themselves that they ought to have shared during their courtship.”
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